The Paradox of Positive Thinking

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It’s everywhere, isn’t it? The power of positive thinking.

It will solve all of our problems, it seems to say. We are told to, “Look on the bright side,” “Think positively,” “Cultivate gratitude,”…

While these can be helpful to help us correct gross imbalances of negativity, it isn’t actually the whole answer to a life well-lived.  Continue reading

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Let’s talk about blood (post share)

A potent new feminine-hygiene ad gets unabashedly bloody to talk about periods—and, in the process, it nails what’s missing in the rest of the advertising world’s “female empowerment” movement. The ad for Bodyform, a UK maker of pads and liners, features a host of badass women—surfers, boxers, rugby players, dancers, and even a medieval knight—getting bloodied, but never backing down. From the blood-pumping score and quick cuts, […]

via “No blood should hold us back”: A feminine-hygiene ad finally gets women’s empowerment right — Quartz

Love, acceptance, and our “hair-down-there”

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Such a personal place. And when it comes to our hairstyle preferences, especially down there, SOCIAL TABOO gets stamped all over it. But I’m going to bust that wide open for a few minutes. Because when our hair down there gets between us and love and self-acceptance, we need to talk about it.

So a few weeks ago, a friend and I were sitting on my couch, giggling and chatting as good girlfriends tend to do. Somehow we ended up on the subject of the twisted public image of women’s bodies. And as things go, we brushed up against the subject of sexual expectations.

She then told me a story about her, her hair, a play and an ex-boyfriend.

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Can meditation reverse anxiety and low self-esteem?

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Breathing can help prolong your life. Well, especially when you combine it with meditation.

In an age where we are constantly multi-tasking, plugged in, inundated with images, facts and emails and enduring constant over-stimulation, it’s no wonder we’re exhausted and a little frayed at the edges each day.

And when you have added stress, it can affect your body in many ways both physically and mentally. So whether you are going through a difficult time in your life or are struggling with an ongoing mental health issue, adopting mindfulness could be just what the doctor ordered.

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Who moved my trash?

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Two weeks ago, my husband and I moved our kitchen trash can. It didn’t seem like a big issue at the time.

For five years, I had it stored away behind the pantry door. While it’s in the kitchen, technically, it serves as the main garbage receptacle for our home. I had picked the pantry because I find trash to be unsightly. And it can smell. Plus, I had cats. Cats who get too curious for their own good, sometimes. Three of ’em.

But my husband had a few good points: Moving the trash to beside the sink would reduce the amount of food droppings and other spillage across the kitchen to the pantry, and, ewww, fewer germs and residue on the pantry door handle.

I had to admit that his logic was sound. It seemed like a better, more sanitary choice.

That was the case until the first 300 times I went to throw something away.

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Why you should make a springtime resolution

It’s May, and are you working hard on your New Year’s Resolution 2016 from January? It’s almost become a bad joke that more than 80 percent of people who make a New Year’s resolution never follow through. And I can tell you why, and what to do about it. Check out this video.

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Depressed? How to tell, and mood-lifting lifestyle tips

Signs & Symptoms for Depression

  • You have an ongoing sense of hopelessness or feel helpless
  • You are always tired You’ve experienced changes in your sleeping (e.g. insomnia or sleeping too much) and eating patterns (severe weight loss/weight gain)
  • You have difficulty concentrating or remembering things
  • You no longer enjoy usual pastimes, events, or friends and have lost interest You thoughts are always dark and negative – about yourself or events and people in your life
  • You get upset or angry much easier than usual You find yourself abusing alcohol or other drug, or participate in reckless behavior

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A little help from (girl)friends can prolong your life

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It was the perfect end to a perfect day. It was a beautiful fall evening. The festivities had ended, and I was surrounded by every love of my life. A large group of us were sitting around in a semicircle around the fireplace in a bed and breakfast in Sedona in a post-wedding day stupor – me, my new husband and my dearest childhood friends (who had all flown in specially for the occasion). One of my closest friends–and the one who’d married my husband and I that day–I’d known since the first day of kindergarten.

It didn’t take long before we were laughing boisterously over dinner, singing, reminiscing, and embracing as if we’d all had too much wine (no, just drunk on each other’s company) – as the husbands exchanged looks, confirming, ‘Yup, this happens every time they’re together.’ Although we live nearly a continent apart, the five of us turn into teenagers again each time we are reunited, never skipping a beat in our deep, rich friendships. I didn’t want this night to end, and cried yet again at our parting …

Because these were the girls that saved my life.

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