The Paradox of Positive Thinking

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It’s everywhere, isn’t it? The power of positive thinking.

It will solve all of our problems, it seems to say. We are told to, “Look on the bright side,” “Think positively,” “Cultivate gratitude,”…

While these can be helpful to help us correct gross imbalances of negativity, it isn’t actually the whole answer to a life well-lived.  Continue reading

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Do you dread asking for help?

Asking for help for me is like the tongue-in-cheek stereotype of the man refusing to ask for directions.

I actually get why men do it. It is so much more gratifying for me to be able to complete a task or “mission impossible” on my own without outside intervention. To ask for help indicates that I’ve failed in some way.

At least that’s how it feels.

For example, one day my husband and I were waiting around for a sales associate at a hardware superstore to come and help us with an item. After a few minutes, it became painfully apparent that if I didn’t find a bathroom – it would not end well. Continue reading

Two life coaches walk into a bookstore…

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For my husband and I, the bookstore is our sanctuary. It’s become a joke between us that when we decide to go to a Barnes & Noble, we’ll “close down the store.” Because it never fails – we’ll go in when it’s still daylight and somehow never make it back out before dark.

We have our favorite genres, of course. My husband will wander over to the art and graphic novel section, or peruse shelves populated with ancient literature. For me, I often find myself thumbing through cookbooks or the craft section.

There is one section, though, that my husband and I overlap: Self-Help. Continue reading

Let’s talk about blood (post share)

A potent new feminine-hygiene ad gets unabashedly bloody to talk about periods—and, in the process, it nails what’s missing in the rest of the advertising world’s “female empowerment” movement. The ad for Bodyform, a UK maker of pads and liners, features a host of badass women—surfers, boxers, rugby players, dancers, and even a medieval knight—getting bloodied, but never backing down. From the blood-pumping score and quick cuts, […]

via “No blood should hold us back”: A feminine-hygiene ad finally gets women’s empowerment right — Quartz

Love, acceptance, and our “hair-down-there”

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Such a personal place. And when it comes to our hairstyle preferences, especially down there, SOCIAL TABOO gets stamped all over it. But I’m going to bust that wide open for a few minutes. Because when our hair down there gets between us and love and self-acceptance, we need to talk about it.

So a few weeks ago, a friend and I were sitting on my couch, giggling and chatting as good girlfriends tend to do. Somehow we ended up on the subject of the twisted public image of women’s bodies. And as things go, we brushed up against the subject of sexual expectations.

She then told me a story about her, her hair, a play and an ex-boyfriend.

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Can meditation reverse anxiety and low self-esteem?

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Breathing can help prolong your life. Well, especially when you combine it with meditation.

In an age where we are constantly multi-tasking, plugged in, inundated with images, facts and emails and enduring constant over-stimulation, it’s no wonder we’re exhausted and a little frayed at the edges each day.

And when you have added stress, it can affect your body in many ways both physically and mentally. So whether you are going through a difficult time in your life or are struggling with an ongoing mental health issue, adopting mindfulness could be just what the doctor ordered.

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Who moved my trash?

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Two weeks ago, my husband and I moved our kitchen trash can. It didn’t seem like a big issue at the time.

For five years, I had it stored away behind the pantry door. While it’s in the kitchen, technically, it serves as the main garbage receptacle for our home. I had picked the pantry because I find trash to be unsightly. And it can smell. Plus, I had cats. Cats who get too curious for their own good, sometimes. Three of ’em.

But my husband had a few good points: Moving the trash to beside the sink would reduce the amount of food droppings and other spillage across the kitchen to the pantry, and, ewww, fewer germs and residue on the pantry door handle.

I had to admit that his logic was sound. It seemed like a better, more sanitary choice.

That was the case until the first 300 times I went to throw something away.

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Why you should make a springtime resolution

It’s May, and are you working hard on your New Year’s Resolution 2016 from January? It’s almost become a bad joke that more than 80 percent of people who make a New Year’s resolution never follow through. And I can tell you why, and what to do about it. Check out this video.

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